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Wise Words: Blue Moon

It’s a blue moon! A moment in time when magic is afoot, when desires bubble up and spill over into our lives and when grander potentials draw near. I’m off enjoying the gift of laughter and fun and connection that a large family reunion brings, so today I’ll reprise my dear friends’ work, originally posted last year, to inspire expansion into our grander selves and allowing all of our wildest dreams to come true.

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What If…
Created by Carla Berg | Inspired by Greg McNaughton

What if…. every person on the planet was born with a special gift to share?
Then…you have a gift to share, too.

What if….each person’s gift is like a puzzle piece and when all the pieces are in place, we will have heaven on earth?
Then…you can help change the world just by being you.

What if….everything that happens to you is somehow preparing you to share your special gifts?
Then…there would be no shame in where you came from, what you’ve done, what you haven’t done, or what’s been done to you.  Even mistakes would be perfect because there are no mistakes.

What if….your special gifts are the things you love to do most?  And to find those gifts all you have to do is listen to your heart?
Then…your special gift is within reach.

What if….you can’t feel or hear your heart?
Then… it is probably clouded with doubt, anger, regret, disappointment or hurt.

What if….all you have to do to clear the clouds from your heart is forgive?  Forgive the people who hurt you.  Forgive life for disappointing you.  Cry out the hurt…scream out the anger…breathe out the doubt … let go of the past….take deep breaths.
Then….a clear heart is within reach.

What if… your soul had a plan all laid out for you before you were born?  And the plan guides you to your favorite dreams?
Then…all your dreams can come true.

What if… all you have to do to follow the plan is AGREE, then look for signs telling you which way to go?
Then….creating your dreams is simple, but takes commitment.

What if… you started each day saying, “I AGREE to the next steps on my plan”?
Then…you would know that you are always making progress toward your dreams.

What if…once you commit to finding your own personal gifts, the whole universe conspired to help you?
Then…you would know that you are never alone.

What if…you don’t know where to begin?
Then….you should begin where you can.  Do what you already know how to do.  Start anywhere and follow it everywhere – remember, the whole universe is helping you get there.

What if…you discover what it is you love the most, but fears get in the way?
Then…you will call on the faith and courage inside you.  And you will remember that you are never alone.

What if….you get stuck along the way?
Then…you will ask for help and the universe will send it.  It might be a person, an idea, an experience, or a sign, but if you ask for it, help will appear.

What if… getting stuck, failing, losing, and getting disappointed all happens on purpose so that when you are ready to share your gifts, you will be wise, strong, and compassionate toward others who are struggling?
Then…getting stuck, failing, losing and getting disappointed would be worth it.

What if…your beliefs, feelings, and thoughts are creating your moment-by-moment reality?
Then…you will choose empowering beliefs, good feelings, and positive thoughts on your own behalf.  Sometimes fears or doubts will come up, but you will breathe deeply and send them on their way.

What if…doing what you love attracts everything you need – money, love, wisdom, joy?
Then…you have no excuses for not doing what you love.

What if…all of this is true?
Then… you have everything you need to live your dreams.

What are you waiting for?  It’s your world too.  Start creating heaven on earth!

Carla Berg’s work can be discovered and explored at Divine Potentials | Carla Berg.

Wise Words: Belonging

Guest Blogger:  Carla Berg | Divine Potentials
Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Carla!

Belonging

From the moment you are born, life experiences are embedding impressions, beliefs, and conclusions in your subconscious mind.  Even what happens while you are in the womb or the circumstances around your birth can have a profound effect on your life.  I once mentioned this in a lecture and afterward a woman excitedly told me that she’d just figured out why she’d always had a deep sense of rejection, as if the world didn’t want her here.  She went on to describe her birth experience.  When her mother was in the final stages of labor, the hospital had called her doctor, but because he didn’t want to interrupt his dinner, he instructed the nurse to stall the labor.  With each contraction, as the baby kept trying to push her way out, the nurse would push her back in. Is it any wonder that despite having loving parents and a love-filled childhood, she’d always felt unwanted?  Her very first attempt to greet the world was met with rejection.  In addition to life-long neck problems, these circumstances created life-long emotional problems too.

It is a wonderful feeling to discover an explanation for why we are the way we are, and even better to discover that we can change something if we want to.  We can’t change what happened at the time of our birth, but we can change the conclusions we formed.  And more importantly, we can always, always give ourselves what we need – even if we didn’t get it as a child.  I’d like to show you how and give you a chance to experience it.  I call this “Remaking History”.  It is a way to consciously embed a positive, loving belief in your subconscious mind to make up for something you didn’t get when you were young.  In this example, it will be a sense of belonging.  Let me provide a little background before we get to the meditation.

In the course of my work, I’ve noticed that very few people have a true sense of belonging.  By that, I mean a sense that they are wanted in this world, that there is a place for them, that the world looked forward to their arrival, welcomed them and is happy that they, specifically, (as much as any other human on earth) are here; that they have a right to be here and a say in what happens on this planet.  Many people may say this is true on an intellectual level, but very few FEEL it’s true.  Imagine how our world would be different if everyone felt they belonged?  People would carry a deeper sense of responsibility for what happens locally and globally.  They would more freely pursue their passions and the contributions they could make.  They’d be less bound by insecurity and self-doubt.  They could relax into self-acceptance and more easily accept others as they realize they have a right to be here too.

Some cultures have customs or rituals designed to embed a sense of belonging from the very start.  For those who weren’t blessed with that kind of beginning, here is a guided meditation.  It’s just a few minutes long, but it can have a profound impact in rewriting your history.  You’ll know by the way you feel.

Click here:  Belonging Meditation (v. 2)
(Note:  This is a much more powerful experience if you use headphones to listen)

 

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Wise Words: Realizing a Dream

This week I am pleased to introduce you to my first guest blogger, Carla Berg.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Carla!

Realizing a Dream

Why is it that when we talk about realizing dreams, we do it with a sort of detached, airy, or romantic tone – as if dream realization is a distant hope or out of reach – perhaps reserved for the fated few, the outrageously determined, or the extremely talented? Why isn’t the fulfillment of dreams a common thing? What happens in the fulfillment process that scares people into avoiding, diminishing, or abandoning the quest?

In Paulo Coelho’s inspiring story, “The Alchemist”, he reveals:

“Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which most people give up. It’s the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one ‘dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.”

What if, as this quote suggests, there is a predictable process in the fulfillment of a dream and, if understood, would make it easier to see things through to fruition? Since uncertainty is one of the most challenging aspects of big change, maybe breaking the process into understandable steps would ease the fear of uncertainty enough to take the leap of faith needed to not only pursue a dream, but keep going when it gets hard.

This topic is foremost in my mind because I’m in the midst of a dream realization – stretching from a life of mediocrity to one of bold, large-scale living. As I near the birth of a new existence, pressure builds, feelings intensify, and the stakes feel higher.  This is the point where the temptation to shrink back is strongest. But instead, I’m determined to master this process by identifying its steps, clarifying its logic and internalizing its brilliance. I’ve been through enough transitions into new careers, different lifestyles and in and out of relationships to identify common steps and challenges…and along with those, some techniques and perspectives that facilitate fulfillment of dreams. So theoretically, if I can create a recipe for dream building, I can use it over and over, fine tuning it until any dream becomes attainable.

But before sharing what I’ve come up with, let me just say that I’m approaching this from the standpoint of emotions and feelings. I believe that if anything can stop or interfere with the dream-building process, it is fear, doubt, or emotion-based limiting beliefs. With that in mind, I’m describing how it FEELS at different points of the process, along with ways to work with or through those feelings.  This is my take on how it works:

How to Realize a Dream
(How to Move from One Reality to Another)

Step A – You’re in a reality that is satisfying.  All is well.      A

 

BStep B – You begin feeling restless. Life feels too small so you begin dreaming. Perhaps you long for fulfilling work or have a talent that has yet to reach its full potential; you want true love or to find self-love through self-discovery. Through daydreaming, you begin reaching out to connect with a bigger/bolder/different reality.

 

Step C – You land on a dream and envision a new way of being that inspires you to begin moving out of your Old Reality. It’s exciting to think about a change, and not too scary because you’re still enjoying the security of the Old. Most of your energy is directed toward
the Old, so it is still pretty well supported and intact – but its inadequacy becomes irritating and a motivation for change. You take small steps in the direction of the New. Maybe you tell a friend, do some research, set some goals and make a commitment. Synchronicities begin and you feel supported as life responds to this New direction.
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Step D – The more you dream about the New Reality, the more real it feels. You can see it more clearly and take steps to make it real – perhaps even a leap of faith. As you do this, less energy is going toward your Old Reality and it starts to dissolve. This can feel unsettling because old sources of support dry up and emotions become stirred up as you let go of the Old. Even though you know you want out of your old world, doubts creep in as the Old falls away before the New materializes:  Is this really possible? Am I being foolish? Will I fail? Am I good enough to have the New? Who do I think I am chasing this dream? Limits or patterns that are out of alignment with your desired New Reality will surface so they can be resolved. This is not designed to stop you; it is not common sense kicking in; it is not the Universe telling you you’re going the wrong way. This is simply the part where the way must be cleared for the New to arrive. Since your inner world creates your outer reality, there must be a change within to create an outer change. This is the part we refer to as “doing the work” and there are no shortcuts. There are, however, many tools and techniques available to help you work through fears, doubts and limiting beliefs. Find them and use them. Feel all your feelings, cry lots of tears, and remember that emotions are the fuel that keep this creative process moving. Most importantly, KEEP BREATHING to allow the Old to fall away and the New to come in.
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Step E
– You have almost completed the important step of letting go of the Old, smaller life, and are just beginning to see signs that the New may be arriving soon. Emotions and doubts are at their highest as you are aware there is nothing to go back to, yet nothing solid to land on in the New. Straddling two worlds, you are not fully in the Old or New Reality and anxiety creeps in. Your identity and even survival may feel threatened, but you’re merely sensing the departure of what no longer serves you. It feels like everything is falling apart, because it must in order for a significant change to occur. Know that your feelings are normal – that this is the scariest part. It would be easy to (energetically) curl up in the fetal position or turn to favorite escapes or become paralyzed with fear, but it is important to keep your energy moving. Nurture yourself to the extent that you can feel safe and hold compassion for yourself. Intuition and trust carry you through this transition. The tendency is to grip the Old Reality, while grasping for the New, but this is disempowering and will create more anxiety. Let go of the Old, even through ritual or symbolic letting go actions. Cry, mourn, and honor the Old as you set it free. Surrender, BREATHE, allow.

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Step F – The more you let go of the Old, the more empowered and trusting you feel. Clarity increases and more details about the New Reality arrive. They inspire you to keep moving forward in spite of fears and doubts. You’re shifting the balance of your energy and attention from the Old Reality to the New. Stoke your passion for your desired New state by connecting with it in your imagination or taking inspired active steps in the physical world. Breathe and allow; breathe and allow, imagining with every breath that you are embodying the desired New. Watch for signs and synchronicities that indicate the New is materializing.
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Step G – The gripping is over, the New Reality has not fully materialized, yet a calm takes over. You know your world is changing and the more relaxed you are, the more easily you transition. Take actions toward your New Reality to make it feel real and it will become real. Acknowledge synchronicities and landings. Take time to consciously breathe in and allow. Honor all your feelings and allow divine timing to take it from here.
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Step H – Success is yours! You’ve made it through the transition and can pamper yourself as you adjust to a new way of being. Congratulate yourself for creating and realizing a dream with your eyes wide open!
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by Carla Berg | Guest Blogger

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Wise Words: What to Expect, Part 1

So you’ve committed to doing the work…the work of you. Now what?

Many people in the self-help, self-improvement, feel-better movement focus only on what they promote as the result of change and transformation. Few, though, talk about what to expect when you are going through, doing the work of, change. Fewer still, talk about why those changes occur the way they do.

The experience of change and transformation is a unique one. As unique as you, unique as each of us. It is not formulaic. There are many paths, many books, many classes, and many teachers that all basically propose ending up at approximately the same place. That said, there are some common experiences.

I’m going to take a few posts to talk about the ones I’ve experienced and studied.

Any time you make a new choice, make a clear decision, not from the head, but from the heart and the passion, you are creating.

Important tangent:  It’s a funny thing, but sometimes the reasons your fears and anxieties come to fruition, instead of those fluffy affirmations, is because there’s more “juice” behind the fear or anger or worry or even the momentum of a pattern that has years of cycling energy behind it. When people recite affirmations, for some (this may not be you), they’re trying to will or convince themselves of it. There’s not a lot of passion behind it. But the doubt or worry that sits just behind it, really gets your juices flowing. Nervous stomach, spinning monkey mind, shallow breathing, etc. You know the feeling. You’re charged up, juiced up, worried. There’s lots of fuel there.

Anyway, you make a clear choice. You’re inspired. It feels great! That delicious wave of passion, creativity and new insight is rushing toward you like a giant wave. Surging through you. It’s electric. There’s a smile on your face. You have a bit of a high from the rush of it. You feel as though you could conquer the world. Know this feeling?

And then…

You wake up the next day, or a few days later, and it feels as if it never happened. You ask yourself where that wonderful feeling of certainty and excitement went. Something has changed. Been there! Maybe you feel empty or like there’s a void. It’s been described as gray or flat. In the wake of this you may feel confused. You begin to question yourself. What’s happening? If you’re like me, for years, I erroneously concluded that I had done it wrong. I didn’t! You didn’t!

There are several moving parts to creating, which is what you’re actually doing when you make a choice. Whether you know it or not, you are ALWAYS creating your life. So, first, you as the powerful creator that you are, make a choice and set the creation in motion. All the energies, resources, people and timing begin to line up to support your creation. Then, everything that is not a match to your choice/creation must go. So they must deconstruct, dissolve, fall apart. (Your perspective will flavor how you describe it!)

A couple analogies to help you see it…

You can’t build a brand new building where an old outdated one still stands. It must come down. The old one no longer serves you and you’re ready to build a new one. So here comes the wrecking ball. BAM! CRASH! Down it goes. You could say it’s falling apart or you can say it’s being removed so the new one can be built. Your choice.

The garden analogy works, too. You can’t successfully grow a garden in a weedy, rocky field. You must first remove the rocks and pull the weeds; clear the space so that something new can be planted. Then you till the soil and add nutrients. Only now can seeds can be successfully planted and begin to grow and thrive.

A little more about the two extremes in feelings/experiences…

My friend, Carla Berg, and I have been studying the processes involved with creating and manifesting for years. We eventually began to see that there was this experience we would consistently have as we would be actively creating something new. I described it as being in brackish waters. Brackish water is the result from the mixing of seawater with fresh water, as in estuaries. It’s the place where both exist, simultaneously. In my experience with change and transformation, I feel it when both the old and the new are in my world at the same time. The old ways, structures, haven’t fully cleared or dissolved yet, and the new has begun to be manifested, but hasn’t fully taken hold. It’s still unfolding. If you don’t know that this is what is happening, it can feel unsettling. It’s where doubts can creep in. I still have to be reminded sometimes!

Big Picture…and little picture…

If you take a step back and look at current events through this lens, you can see it happening all over the world, too. Large systems are breaking down, faltering, coming apart at the seams and inspired new ideas coming forth in the wake of it. As, my friend, Barbara With speaks of in her powerful workshop called Conflict REVOLUTION, your experiences are happening to you in the microcosm, on a small scale, and in the macrocosm, the same thing is happening, but on a global scale. This consciousness of transformation is scalable. Which is why peace on Earth, is possible, one person at a time!

Next post I’ll talk more about what comes up for us when we make a change. I’ll focus on the emotional issues, which are often things from our past getting recreated as patterns. The issues reveal themselves so we can break the patterns, clear them out of our way and allow our grander creations to come forth.


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