What’s that saying? The only thing that is constant is change.
Change. We want it. We fear it. We bless it. We curse it.
It can be something that just happens, happens to us. It can be change for change’s sake. Or it can be meaningful, intentional…transformational. The kind you seek out. The kind that calls to you. A compelling. You know there’s more…more to you, more to life. So you commit to it. You begin a process, a journey. Not a journey to a place. The journey into you. Discovery of you. A discovery of who you are, who you are not, who you want to be.
Like all of life and especially in this process of self discovery, the thing you can expect for sure is change. But isn’t that what you’re calling for? If you’re like me, though, you’ll need to be reminded of that along the way!
Change happens at multiple levels, in layers, even if our perception is singular, seeing only one at a time. The ones we engage most directly include the mental, the physical and emotional layers. The more you can allow the structures and patterns of the old, that which no longer serves you, to topple and fall so that the real and true structure of you can stand, the easier it all will be. In these things, the heart is a better guide than the mind. The mind will follow the heart. Can you stop forcing answers in the mind and allow them to flow to and through the heart? Can you allow the simple answers to come to you? If you call for them, they must come. Can you allow them to come to you?
Attitude and Perspective
In all things along the way, it is simple, but not always easy. That’s where your perspective, choices, and attitudes make a difference. Do you believe it has to be hard? Do you think if it’s simple instead of complex, it is somehow less than? My experience is that the wisest teachers, the most profound insights are simple and profound. If it’s complex, it’s false. Often that means someone’s ego or confusion or agenda has been infused into it. Your intuition, your discernment, your gut will serve you well in getting at what’s best for you. Distill it down to its simplest form, it’s core or root. That’s where the wisdom lives.
As you peel back the layers and levels, can you imagine that you’re unwrapping gifts for yourself? Can you see, feel and experience the changes and be grateful? Some days this will not be easy. You may curse yourself (and maybe me ; ) ) for choosing to begin at all. But, remember, you called for it. It is happening as it should. Not because of fate or destiny or karma, but because you called for it. You, the creator of your life, said I know there is more! Bring it on!
It’s all just experience. Can you take the charge, the judgement of right and wrong off of it? Can you let go of the expectations you had of how it would go and instead trust yourself? Trust that it is sacred. It is happening appropriately. The less you resist, the less you worry, the easier and more gracefully the experience will be. I speak from experience. I speak as one who was the QUEEN of WORRY for most of my life. The worry colored every part of my experience, making it challenging and scary at every turn. But, the more I got into a place of deep trust of self, the smoother things went. It took practice. It took discipline. But I did it. It can be done. Deep, conscious breathing helps. Stepping into the role of observer helps.
If this sounds all too familiar, for now, take a deep breath and give yourself credit for taking some of the first and vital steps into awareness of the grander You. I predict that you will look back on this time you have chosen for awareness and transformation, you will look back on even the toughest of times and see them, feel them and know them as precious. Don’t be mistaken. I’m not promising all sunshine and rainbows. It can be disruptive, dramatic. Things can feel like they’re getting worse, before it feels like they’re improving. But even that depends on your perspective. If you see things as if nothing is wrong, that everything is happening for a reason, your experience will be smoother and easier. What I can promise, though, is that you’ll ultimately be freer and more authentically you than ever before. And isn’t that worth some discomfort? It was for me!
In the beginning it takes a while to see things differently. Even when you want to see, clarity may still elude you. These are layers upon layers you’re dealing with. It requires the greatest trust of all – the trust of self. That said, once you become aware of something, you can never become unaware. And 80% of personal growth is awareness, the process of becoming aware. The remaining 20% is applying the wisdom, putting it all into practice. But don’t discount the getting there! I think that’s the hardest part…the willingness to pay attention, to open your eyes, to see what you’re ready to see.
Processing, exploring, releasing and clearing, these are all ways to get started, but ultimately it will be about absolute trust, absolute acceptance of self, love of self, compassion for self and allowing you to be the true and authentic you. Period. A lack of trust in self results in isolation, restricted energy flow…life-giving energy flow. You pinch off the natural flow, allowing yourself only enough to get by. You give yourself just enough.
But what’s possible when you step into trust, when you begin to nurture and love you? What’s possible when you begin? It’s different for each of us, but common themes emerge. It’s possible that you’ll start putting yourself first. To notice and then stop the self sabotage and self betrayal (as I’ve said, the worst kind of betrayal). You’ll start speaking your truth more often. You’ll begin to feel more authentic, more like your true self. How you interact with the world will change. Your first relationship will be with yourself. Your expectations of self and others will begin to change. Your relationships will shift and change, becoming more based in trust and love. You’ll probably experience some peaking and plateauing. It’s normal! But, be certain, things will change. You will change.
It doesn’t matter how you begin, only that you begin.
~ Jessica Sackett
(I couldn’t find this quoted anywhere in this way, so you can quote me!)
Long ago someone told me that if I took one bold step, the Universe would take nine back toward me. I have found that to be true. There is magic in beginning. I send my blessings as you begin…or begin again, as I have done so many, many times on this journey.
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